On women being uncomfortable at rock concertsAnd I've never felt particularly uncomfortable at rock shows. After several dozen shows over two years, it's a familiar atmosphere. But that comfort is due to my privilege as a part of a heterosexual couple. I almost never go to shows without my male partner, whose central passion is live music. As a ( Read more... )

Ooooof.

Phantom of the Opera teaches girls bad, bad, orful thingz!
Of course, to call it a two-and-a-half-hour musical about rape vastly understates the bizarreo-world factor of this musical, although it's hardly an inaccurate statement.

At first, I was merely staggered by what this show must do to thirteen-year-old girls. I mean, it's just utterly ( Read more... )

ginmar saying something totally righteous and supermazing:

We need degrees and shades of love to be defined so we can tell the difference between stalkers, abusers, obsessives, fakers, liars, and control freaks, all of whom have been immortalized in fiction by both male and female writers as romantic heroes. We need a way to define love that's weird, ( Read more... )